Who Are You Married To?

“Jesus said to her, “Go, call your husband, and come here.” The woman answered and said, “I have no husband.” Jesus said to her, “You have well said, ‘I have no husband,’ for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly” (John 4:17-18 NKJV).

Over the last few days, I’ve missed someone. You may wonder why I would even start things off in this way, but this type of stuff has to be confronted because it’s how people get caught up and entangled in what God loosed them from already. As I was thinking what I was thinking, each time I heard, “What part of toxic do you miss?” I can’t argue with the question. The situation was beyond toxic, but with this being so, what causes me to miss something that left me so shattered? The answer: the familiarity.

Being familiar with a thing will cause you to run back to it if you don’t know how the enemy operates. I told no one how I felt because I already knew what they would say. To put the petal to the metal even more concerning the importance of being mindful where I allow my thoughts to settle, I heard, “He is not your husband.”

Now the serpent was more crafty (subtle, skilled in deceit) than any living creature of the field which the LORD God had made. And the serpent (Satan) said to the woman, “Can it really be that God has said, ‘You shall not eat from any tree of the garden’?”( Genesis 3:1 AMP).

It started with a thought. Eve was chilling until her thoughts caused her to question what she already knew what was right. Eve didn’t rebuke the thought. She spoke to it and followed it down a path that was created to take her out.

Toxic thoughts can lead you to make choices that have the potential to derail your destiny. Think about what you’re thinking about. Consider if your thoughts are coming from God or from the serpent to get you to eat bad fruit.

I thought about the Samaritan woman recently. This woman dealt with a lot of men and none of them were her husband. Let’s not be quick to judge her, though. Consider what you are married to that has caused a ruckus in your life? Could it be a person, your job, toxic beliefs/ thoughts, the internet, people pleasing, pride- you fill in the blank.

The Samaritan woman dated, and she loved. She gave, and still, none of those men were it. This woman got a new man when the old one left, but that old and dysfunctional pattern ceased when she met The Man, Jesus.

Jesus was not in the Samaritan woman’s dm’s. He didn’t try to date her. He spoke to her in love and told her that this this new man was not her husband. This woman was isolating herself, and her company was a love that God didn’t send to her.

Jesus didn’t waste any time or cut any corners with this woman. He offered to fill her with what would fulfill her-living water.

What are you longing for that you know God has rejected but yet the enemy is desiring to drag you back to it?

“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful,

who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it”

(1Corinthians 10:13).

You have to reject the enemy’s advances because he seeks to advance against you like a war tank, knocking everything down and leaving mass devastation all around you.

Get out of your own way, and trust God. Lean NOT on your own understanding, or follow your heart. After all, it’s deceitful (Jeremiah 17:9). Follow the Holy Spirit, and things will go well for you.

Lord, reveal me to me. I want to walk in your ways, have your thoughts, and the desires of your heart. Lord, sever the soul ties, and give me right thinking- the mind of Christ. Enter into the secret places of my life. I give you full access to wipe clean what the enemy desires to remain. Lord, I pray that my mind will stay on you and that I do not lose focus. My desire is to be pleasing in your eyesight. I pray to see your truth at all times. In Jesus name, Amen.

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John 4:1-26 Genesis 3

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