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Why I Won't Date: Second Wind and Fresh Fire pt2

Some people think that waiting on God for your husband or wife is " to saved". They say that you don't know a person until you live with them or that you have to test them out sexually before you commit, but those things are not true when you really decide to wait on God. God knows your heart and knows what will keep your attention. The most important thing to keep in mind is that marriage is ministry. God is not going to send you someone that does not know how to listen to Him or take care of his or her home/family. I see so many women who complain about being a good woman but their man is dogging them out. He prefers the drama over a home that is a sanctuary. Don't be offended by that particular man's vice because now you have a way of escape if you choose to take it.  
 
"The blessing of the LORD makes a person rich, and he adds no sorrow with it" (Proverbs 10:22). 
 
My heart was broken all over again when someone from my past decided to apologize for the way
that he had treated me 2 years ago. I thought that him saying that he was sorry would vindicate me in some way, but all it made me see was that I needed to forgive him and that he was most likely reaping what he had sown. Women, you cannot fix a man's heart. He is who he is until he allows God to come in and be God. I cannot tell you the measure of hurt you will bring upon yourself by not listening to God. When God says no, Listen to that no and stop trying to reason with God. 
 
"Swear to me, young women of Jerusalem, that you won't awaken or arouse love before its proper time" (Song of Solomon 8:4). 
 
Know that God has sons and daughters after his own heart. Why are you still trying to make a prince or  princess out of someone who is comfortable being a peasant? Why are you still staying up at night crying over the end of a trial when God is trying to make room for someone triumphant? 
 
"The LORD said to Samuel, "How long will you mourn for Saul, since I have rejected him as king over Israel? Fill your horn with oil and be on your way; I am sending you to Jesse of Bethlehem. I have chosen one of his sons to be king" ( 1 Samuel 16:1).
 
Know your worth woman or man of God. Enjoy your singleness instead of being sad at everybody else's wedding. Rejoice with others when they are blessed because your time of laughter will come also. Enjoy God instead of always looking for a blessing. God is a blessing all by himself. His presence is everything. No one will give you peace or fill any void in your life the way that God can. 
 
Lord forgive me for focusing more on relationships with people instead of seeking your face. I pray for every broken heart God. I pray that they will release all the hurts and disappointments from the past to you so that healing can begin. I pray that they let those things go that you have denied. I pray that each woman accepts her David, a man after your own heart, and each man respects the P31 that you have prepared just for him. Lord let us be content in our waiting and continuously seek your face for direction, but most of all for peace. God I thank you for your love and your consistency even when we are inconsistent in Jesus name, Amen. 

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