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Because of Who You Are: You Cannot Date Whoever You Want



Some men come as a distraction and not as a covering. Mary could not date whoever she wanted to because of who she was, who she was attached to, and because of the promise that God had given her. Mary carried something so precious on the inside of her and she had to wait for a man that could handle her anointing. Mary had to wait for a king's kid. 
A son of a king understands order, discipline, and the covering. Joseph both covered and protected Mary when the enemy wanted to destroy her promise. Ladies, the enemy wants to destroy that thing that God has placed on the inside of you and he will use what and whoever he has to just to make sure that you don't give birth to destiny.   
When they had gone, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream.  
"Get up," he said, "take the child and his mother and escape to Egypt. 
 Stay there until I tell you, for Herod is going to search for the child to kill him.  
So he got up, took the child and his mother during the night and left for Egypt"  
(Matthew 2:13-14). 
The baby that Mary was carrying was no ordinary baby. Mary's baby was anointed to break the yokes of bondage off of people's lives. Mary understood that she was carrying power. Don't you believe that God has anointed you to carry this same gift of power? Your books, your art, your voice, those poems, and that gift to take photos is all for the glory of God. Stop trying to measure your gift with the portion that God has given to another. Power is power no matter what form it is released in. God is God no matter how he chooses to use what he has placed on the inside of you. 
"We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.  
If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; 
 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently;  
if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully" 
 (Romans 12 6-8). 
Take care of your gift. Everyone is not going to treasure what God has placed on the inside of you. I'm sure that people told Mary that her baby was not that special and that it was too hot to be  traveling all over the place to protect it. This is what made Joseph so special. Joseph understood the gift that Mary was carrying and he covered her while she was in use by God. Joseph's whole journey with Mary involved him being both a husband and a protector of her and her baby. Joseph understood how important it was to hear from the Lord concerning his wife and he listened. I'm sure he encouraged her and guided her gift in the way that a king would. 

The fact that a man is fine does not make him qualified to be your battle partner. When you understand who you are in the kingdom, you should never have to remove your crown to make him feel more comfortable. A man that is the son of a king understands his place in the kingdom and he is not afraid to walk in that. 

Today I want to encourage you to wait on God and to trust him with every area of your life. God will not present you with junk. He has not prepared a man for you that will mock you, lie to you, beat you, or criticize you. God wants to honor you with his finest. Remember that God has sons after his own heart so you do not have to settle, but you do have to wait. 

Lord I pray that your daughters begin to enjoy where they are in you today. It's not about tomorrow or next week, but I pray that they stop hating where they are in their lives right now. Lord I pray that your daughters submit to being built and grounded in you before you release them to a mate. Lord I pray that you train your daughters to protect the anointings and gifts that you have given them. I pray that your daughters stop being afraid to learn about their heavenly father because they are still mourning in some way over their earthly father. Young woman, God is the ultimate father, he is a different kind of father, he is nothing like man, put your guard down and get to know him, in Jesus name, Amen. 

Recommended Reading : Proverbs 31

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