Let’s Talk About Sex

Tonight, I thought about sex. I thought about the beauty of it and I thought about the reasons that God created it. Sex can be beautiful and pleasurable, but sex can also be very dangerous if you don’t know the truth behind it. As a young girl, no one sat down with me and talked to me about sex. I never got the “protect yourself” talk and I never got a real run down about what people will do just to have sex with you.

I lost my virginity at the age of 14. I didn’t even really know the guy, but I thought that I would spend the rest of my life with him because that was the story that he sold me. I don’t blame him, and I don’t resent him for anything anymore, but I wish that I had been wiser and that I understood the value of what I was giving away.

In my 20s I learned that sex is not only physical, but it is spiritual also. I learned what soul ties were and I began to understand why it was so hard for me to break away from people after the “relationship” had ended. I have gone through spiritual deliverance both privately and publicly, but there are still some things that I struggle with because I allowed those doors to be opened early on in my life.

There is a reason that sex is supposed to be saved for marriage. Trust me, I know the struggle and I have made multiple mistakes, so I am not judging anyone for having sex before marriage. I just want people to understand and to know what I have learned over the years about the struggles that come along with wanting to be intimate before it is spiritually, mentally, and emotionally time to do so.

Sex is more than a talk that can be had and it is more than a class that can be taken. As a young girl, I didn’t know what I was getting myself into and I honestly thought that I was behind, because a lot of my friends were already sexually active. I had sex because I thought that I was loved even though that person was not what I really wanted. The person was older than me and he actually proposed to me before it happned. I didn’t understand what it meant to be careful and I didn’t know that I was spiritually exposing myself to things that he was spiritually dealing with. I just wanted to be loved.

I understand wanting to fit in and I understand wanting to be loved, but God’s laws are in place for a reason. There are so many young girls that have never been taught the truth about the gospel of Jesus Christ and they fall into the trap of the devil because of it.

I recently heard the story of a young girl that is in DHR custody. This child is pregnant and she has no where to go. She has most likely been through trauma and she is already thinking and talking negatively about her unborn child. Once the child is born, he or she will be in DHR custody also. This young girl most likely had sex because she wanted to feel loved. She may not have thought that she would not get pregnant and I’m sure that she doesn’t understand the spiritual state that this unborn child may go through because of the rejection that she has had concerning her pregnancy.

Sex is not meant to be shared outside of marriage because it can be dangerous to both the mental and physical state of a person. There are demons attached to unlawful sexual practices, but most people ignore that aspect of it because they are blinded by the illusion of pleasure that is also attached to it.

If you have never heard it before, I need to tell you that sex should be saved until you are married. Again, I am no judge, but I am a woman who loves Jesus and has been down a few roads that I wish I had never traveled. If you are dating a person who cannot wait until you are married to have sex, allow them to move on with their lives without you. Your purity, sanity, and safety is not worth the approval of anyone.

Sex is spiritual. You are becoming one with another person whether you really like them or not. It is dangerous to allow yourself to become one with multiple people because you open the door for multiple demons to flow through.

No matter where you are in life or in love, I pray that you know that Jesus loves you. I pray that if your heart has broken in anyway that you forgive that person and let them and what they did to you go. I pray that your purity will be restored to you no matter how it may have been taken. I pray that you have a clear mind and clear thoughts. I pray against your mind being cluttered and I pray that you will no longer regret and walk in the past. In Christ ALL things are made new. I pray for your freedom. In Jesus you are free! I pray that you will desire to understand the spiritual things and not just the natural things that you can see with your eyes. I pray you will yearn to fulfill the purpose that God for your life and that you will not allow anything or anyone to get in the way of what you have been divinely called to do. I pray that you know that you are more than a conquer. In Jesus name, Amen.

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