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When Pain is Your SpringBoard


“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted, He rescues those whose spirits are crushed”(Psalm 34:18 NLT).

I recently called my father to tell him that I loved him, and he didn’t say it back. I felt led to call him and choose to not take his response personally, although I wanted to. I deserved to; but God is doing a work in me concerning this area. I try to make things pretty, but hurt is never pretty and forgiveness is rarely easy. I’m challenged to forgive and to not be offended, even when I deserve to be. People do things that I don’t like, but because I want all that God has, I have to be intentional about dealing with both my heart and my hurt.

It may seem crazy, but the best thing that anyone can do for you is to count you out and hurt you. Hurt can either damage you or it can create a passion in you that God can use for His glory.
I am the definition of a foolish thing that God has chosen to use. All that He requires from me is that I submit to Him, even when I don’t understand. A lot of times, I drag my feet due to being uncomfortable, but I’m a foolish thing and I submit to being just that, because I know that I can trust the One whose hand I am in.

David was a foolish thing also. He was picked last. As a matter of fact, I believe that no-one would have called Him if Samuel was not a true man of God who knew how to follow directions. Sometimes, we tend to go with what we want or think in our flesh, instead of following God’s lead, but we’ll save that for a different blog.
In 1 Samuel 16, Sauls looks at all of these “kings”, but none of them were God’s chosen. God choose a foolish thing instead of another people’s champ (Saul was a man for the people and not a man of God).

Hurt stings, but it will launch you if you give that hurt to God. Your hurt can be used to heal others if you submit to the process of healing. Your hurt, in God’s hands, is a divine vaccine that He can use over and over again. Your pain is the base and God’s word is the active agent that will make your process worth it. When chemist make a vaccine, they take the dangerous ingredient and combine it with other properties that can be used to fight the very ingredient that it is composed of. When you give the hurt that you feel to God, He combines it with His power and He uses it to heal other people.

The truth hurts, as a matter of fact, it stings; but at some point, you have to decide to run toward your healing and trust God with the heart of those who may be offended by your healing. Be a tool that God can use no matter who is offended by what you say or do, in a Godly manner.

Some of us have testimonies that will hurt other people’s feelings because they didn’t know that their influence ( or lack of influence) caused  you so much pain, but God will bless you for being honest with Him and with yourself. Don’t drink it away. Don’t smoke it away. Stop self medicating. Give  your truth to God and watch what He does with it.

Lord, I thank you that no matter what I write from this day forward or what I reveal, it is a safe place in you. You know what I deal with and you know how I deal with it. You know my past and the pain that I have experienced. I give it to you now, in Jesus name. I submit to this process and I trust you even when I didn’t understand. I pray for more of your peace and I thank you for the peace that you have already provided for me. You are enough, and I am enough in you. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Recommended Reading: Psalm 34 NLT
But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty” (1 Corinthians 1:27 NKJV).

*Today I proclaim that the hurt that you have felt will be used to give the devil a black eye! You will use what the devil has called an “injury” and you will bless people because of the healing power of Jesus! You are a warrior not a victim! I dare you to trust God! You will recover all that you have lost emotionally, mentally, physically, financially, and spiritually in Jesus name.

*SpringBoard-a flexible board, projecting over water, from which divers leap or spring; a flexible board used as a takeoff in vaulting, tumbling, etc., to increase the height of leaps;
something that supplies the impetus or conditions for a beginning, change, or progress; a point of departure:

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